The Best thing about People
I once heard being a good person isn't hard, but it doesn't just happen.
Yep, I agree with that in fact it takes a lot of hard work.
Hard work I hear you say, how so?
Well, one of the best things about being a good person is their honesty, however, honesty is like a double-edged sword. Speaking from experience when you have a very good friend who has maybe a few annoying habits that can be annoying to some people and you are not honest enough to tell them their bad habits are making them look bad in other people's eyes. I did not want to tell my good friend because I didn't want to hurt his feelings and probably didn't want him to end our friendship. Then again that was when I was a lot younger and wanted everybody to like me. When you do that and try to shield people you end up not being that true friend as you are not being totally honest with them. Of course, sometimes being totally honest can come with challenges and difficulties because maybe if you know something that may be happening in your friend's life and they don't know if you tell them it may end up hurting your friend’s feelings or even worse spoiling a relationship. It's tricky being an honest person, right.
I am a coach and have learned numerous things over the years and one thing that I highly recommend is to compliment people, be it in a work area or in a sports environment. I have numerous examples but one that I take particular delight in is the football team that I coached a few years ago in Aberdeen. That soccer to my American friends.
I coached a team that had one or two great players one or two good and the rest I would say were average but all had a great work ethic which I and my other coaches instilled into them at a very early age. 7 and 8 years old was the case.
My favourite phrase as I recall, you look good, you feel good, you feel good, you play good. I always wanted the team to turn up dressed smart, boots cleaned, and having the right mentality. You may think that right mentality at 8 years old, yes doesn't matter what age, install the right mentality, respect and playing for the team, in my opinion, is always a successful combination.
So it proved as the season went on. We were playing the top-of-the-table team who were unbeaten so far in the season. Last-minute words in the dressing room, another phrase which I used a lot. Get the ball, give the ball and go. Became better known as the 3 G’s Get Give Go.
The team was outstanding that day and won comfortably 4–1, 20 years on I still see some of my team and all remember that game fondly when a set of lads can perform to the best of their ability and then give more. OUTSTANDING. So to be a good person be excited and enthusiastic about other people's achievements.
Being kind is always a trait for being a good person, look at people with positivity and take them as you find them, never judge a book by its cover.
Think about other people, don't be selfish, yes it's easy to be selfish and think of yourself first and foremost, but don't be, it's not always about you, learn to understand other people's decisions and actions.
Never take things for granted, what good things you may have done in the past doesn't mean to say that it will have the same results in the future.
The last, well I am sure there are many more, but the last thing I want to share is SMILE. All truly good people smile often not just when things are going well.
Keep smiling and have a great day.
